Why Must We Fight Fear?

Iโ€™ve written the headline, โ€œ๐‘พ๐’‰๐’š ๐‘ด๐’–๐’”๐’• ๐’˜๐’† ๐‘ญ๐’Š๐’ˆ๐’‰๐’• ๐‘ญ๐’†๐’‚๐’“?โ€ over and over again, followed by a pause, because part of me said to discuss the topic now, another part, wait until later.

When we think of โ€œ๐‘“๐‘’๐‘Ž๐‘Ÿโ€, it has many synonyms, like ๐‘Ž๐‘›๐‘ฅ๐‘–๐‘’๐‘ก๐‘ฆ, ๐‘ค๐‘œ๐‘Ÿ๐‘Ÿ๐‘ฆ, ๐‘ข๐‘›๐‘’๐‘Ž๐‘ ๐‘’, ๐‘‘๐‘Ÿ๐‘’๐‘Ž๐‘‘, ๐‘๐‘œ๐‘›๐‘๐‘’๐‘Ÿ๐‘›, ๐‘Ž๐‘›๐‘‘ ๐‘‘๐‘œ๐‘ข๐‘๐‘ก. These are present in our every day lives.

Even If we donโ€™t verbally speak about them, many of us experience them on a fairly regular basis, and they heavily influencing our moods and actions.

Iโ€™m no stranger to experiencing these feelings generated by my own thoughts.

Whether itโ€™sโ€ฆ

๐—”๐—ป๐˜…๐—ถ๐—ผ๐˜‚๐˜€๐—น๐˜† ๐—ฎ๐˜„๐—ฎ๐—ถ๐˜๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ ๐—ผ๐˜‚๐˜๐—ฐ๐—ผ๐—บ๐—ฒ ๐—ผ๐—ณ ๐—ฎ ๐—ฏ๐˜‚๐˜€๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ฒ๐˜€๐˜€ ๐—ฝ๐—ฟ๐—ผ๐—ฝ๐—ผ๐˜€๐—ฎ๐—น

๐—–๐—ผ๐—ป๐—ฐ๐—ฒ๐—ฟ๐—ป๐—ฒ๐—ฑ ๐—ฎ๐—ฏ๐—ผ๐˜‚๐˜ ๐—บ๐—ถ๐˜€๐˜€๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด ๐—ฎ ๐—ฐ๐—ผ๐—ป๐—ป๐—ฒ๐—ฐ๐˜๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด ๐—ณ๐—น๐—ถ๐—ด๐—ต๐˜

๐——๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—ฏ๐˜๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด ๐—บ๐˜† ๐—ฎ๐—ฏ๐—ถ๐—น๐—ถ๐˜๐˜† ๐˜๐—ผ ๐˜„๐—ฟ๐—ถ๐˜๐—ฒ ๐—ฎ ๐—ฏ๐—ผ๐—ผ๐—ธ

๐—ข๐—ฟโ€ฆ ๐˜„๐—ผ๐—ฟ๐—ฟ๐˜†๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด ๐—ฎ๐—ฏ๐—ผ๐˜‚๐˜ ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ ๐—ต๐—ฒ๐—ฎ๐—น๐˜๐—ต ๐—ผ๐—ณ ๐—ฎ ๐—น๐—ผ๐˜ƒ๐—ฒ๐—ฑ ๐—ผ๐—ป๐—ฒ

They are all forms of fear, with varying levels of intensity, time consumption, and impacts on my behavior.

Take for example, โ€œ๐˜ฅ๐˜ฐ๐˜ถ๐˜ฃ๐˜ต๐˜ช๐˜ฏ๐˜จ ๐˜ฎ๐˜บ ๐˜ข๐˜ฃ๐˜ช๐˜ญ๐˜ช๐˜ต๐˜บ ๐˜ต๐˜ฐ ๐˜ธ๐˜ณ๐˜ช๐˜ต๐˜ฆ ๐˜ข ๐˜ฃ๐˜ฐ๐˜ฐ๐˜ฌโ€.

The truth isโ€ฆ

๐—œโ€™๐˜ƒ๐—ฒ ๐—ป๐—ฒ๐˜ƒ๐—ฒ๐—ฟ ๐—ณ๐˜‚๐—น๐—น๐˜† ๐˜„๐—ฟ๐—ถ๐˜๐˜๐—ฒ๐—ป ๐—ผ๐—ฟ ๐—ฝ๐˜‚๐—ฏ๐—น๐—ถ๐˜€๐—ต๐—ฒ๐—ฑ ๐—ฎ ๐—ฏ๐—ผ๐—ผ๐—ธ, ๐—ฎ๐—ป๐—ฑ ๐˜†๐—ฒ๐˜, ๐—œ ๐—ฎ๐—ถ๐—บ ๐˜๐—ผ.

๐—œโ€™๐˜ƒ๐—ฒ ๐—ป๐—ฒ๐˜ƒ๐—ฒ๐—ฟ ๐—ฏ๐—ฒ๐—ฒ๐—ป ๐—ธ๐—ป๐—ผ๐˜„๐—ป ๐˜๐—ผ ๐—ฒ๐˜…๐—ฐ๐—ฒ๐—น ๐—ฎ๐˜ ๐˜„๐—ฟ๐—ถ๐˜๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด ๐—ถ๐—ป ๐˜€๐—ฐ๐—ต๐—ผ๐—ผ๐—น ๐—ผ๐—ฟ ๐—ฎ๐˜ ๐˜„๐—ผ๐—ฟ๐—ธ

Does that mean I canโ€™t? ๐‘‚๐‘“ ๐‘๐‘œ๐‘ข๐‘Ÿ๐‘ ๐‘’ ๐‘›๐‘œ๐‘ก.

Does that mean I wonโ€™t attempt it? ๐ป๐‘’๐‘Ÿ๐‘’ ๐‘™๐‘–๐‘’๐‘  ๐‘กโ„Ž๐‘’ ๐‘โ„Ž๐‘Ž๐‘™๐‘™๐‘’๐‘›๐‘”๐‘’. ๐‘‡โ„Ž๐‘–๐‘  ๐‘–๐‘  ๐‘คโ„Ž๐‘’๐‘Ÿ๐‘’ ๐ผ, ๐‘Ž๐‘›๐‘‘ ๐‘š๐‘Ž๐‘›๐‘ฆ ๐‘œ๐‘กโ„Ž๐‘’๐‘Ÿ๐‘  ๐‘”๐‘’๐‘ก ๐‘ ๐‘ก๐‘ข๐‘๐‘˜.

There is evidence that I lack experience writing and publishing books. And because of this, my mind could and has easily chalked it up as not being possible. Whether that is factual or not, can be debated.

At times, finding myself thinkingโ€ฆ.

โ€œ๐ผ๐‘กโ€™๐‘  ๐‘๐‘’๐‘ก๐‘ก๐‘’๐‘Ÿ ๐‘ก๐‘œ ๐‘“๐‘œ๐‘๐‘ข๐‘  ๐‘ก๐‘–๐‘š๐‘’ ๐‘Ž๐‘›๐‘‘ ๐‘’๐‘›๐‘’๐‘Ÿ๐‘”๐‘ฆ ๐‘œ๐‘› ๐‘คโ„Ž๐‘Ž๐‘ก ๐ผโ€™๐‘š ๐‘”๐‘œ๐‘œ๐‘‘ ๐‘Ž๐‘กโ€

โ€œ๐‘‡โ„Ž๐‘’๐‘Ÿ๐‘’โ€™๐‘  ๐‘›๐‘œ ๐‘ค๐‘Ž๐‘ฆ ๐‘ก๐‘œ ๐‘˜๐‘›๐‘œ๐‘ค ๐‘–๐‘“ ๐ผ ๐‘ค๐‘–๐‘™๐‘™ ๐‘’๐‘ฃ๐‘’๐‘Ÿ ๐‘”๐‘’๐‘ก ๐‘๐‘ข๐‘๐‘™๐‘–๐‘ โ„Ž๐‘’๐‘‘โ€

โ€œ๐ฝ๐‘ข๐‘ ๐‘ก ๐‘๐‘’๐‘๐‘Ž๐‘ข๐‘ ๐‘’ ๐‘ฆ๐‘œ๐‘ข ๐‘Ž๐‘Ÿ๐‘’ ๐‘๐‘Ž๐‘ ๐‘ ๐‘–๐‘œ๐‘›๐‘Ž๐‘ก๐‘’ ๐‘Ž๐‘๐‘œ๐‘ข๐‘ก ๐‘ ๐‘œ๐‘š๐‘’๐‘กโ„Ž๐‘–๐‘›๐‘”, ๐‘‘๐‘œ๐‘’๐‘ ๐‘›โ€™๐‘ก ๐‘š๐‘’๐‘Ž๐‘› ๐‘ฆ๐‘œ๐‘ข ๐‘๐‘Ž๐‘› ๐‘”๐‘’๐‘ก ๐‘๐‘Ž๐‘–๐‘‘ ๐‘ก๐‘œ ๐‘‘๐‘œ ๐‘–๐‘กโ€

๐ƒ๐จ ๐š๐ง๐ฒ ๐จ๐Ÿ ๐ญ๐ก๐ž๐ฌ๐ž ๐ฆ๐ž๐ฌ๐ฌ๐š๐ ๐ž๐ฌ ๐ฌ๐จ๐ฎ๐ง๐ ๐Ÿ๐š๐ฆ๐ข๐ฅ๐ข๐š๐ซ, ๐ญ๐จ ๐š๐ง๐ฒ ๐๐ž๐ ๐ซ๐ž๐ž?

You know, itโ€™s true that I probably could not get published tomorrow, or even next week, based on my current experience. However, there is literally nothing that says I canโ€™t focus on changing that.

Thereโ€™s nothing that says I canโ€™tโ€ฆ.

๐—ฃ๐—ฟ๐—ฎ๐—ฐ๐˜๐—ถ๐—ฐ๐—ฒ ๐˜„๐—ฟ๐—ถ๐˜๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด ๐—ฒ๐˜ƒ๐—ฒ๐—ฟ๐˜† ๐—ฑ๐—ฎ๐˜†

๐—ฆ๐—ต๐—ฎ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ ๐—บ๐˜† ๐˜„๐—ฟ๐—ถ๐˜๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด ๐˜„๐—ถ๐˜๐—ต ๐—ผ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ๐—ฟ๐˜€

๐—ฅ๐—ฒ๐—ฎ๐—ฑ ๐—ฏ๐—ผ๐—ผ๐—ธ๐˜€ ๐—ฎ๐—ฏ๐—ผ๐˜‚๐˜ ๐—ต๐—ผ๐˜„ ๐˜๐—ผ ๐—ถ๐—บ๐—ฝ๐—ฟ๐—ผ๐˜ƒ๐—ฒ ๐—บ๐˜† ๐˜„๐—ฟ๐—ถ๐˜๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด

๐—›๐—ถ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ ๐—ฎ ๐˜„๐—ฟ๐—ถ๐˜๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด ๐—ฐ๐—ผ๐—ฎ๐—ฐ๐—ต

Itโ€™s whether Iโ€™m going to let my own doubt keep me from it.

๐—œ๐—ณ ๐—œ ๐˜€๐—ฝ๐—ฒ๐—ป๐—ฑ ๐—บ๐˜† ๐˜๐—ถ๐—บ๐—ฒ ๐—ณ๐—ผ๐—ฐ๐˜‚๐˜€๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด ๐—ผ๐—ป ๐˜„๐—ต๐˜† ๐—œ ๐—ฐ๐—ฎ๐—ปโ€™๐˜ ๐—ฎ๐—ฐ๐—ต๐—ถ๐—ฒ๐˜ƒ๐—ฒ ๐˜„๐—ต๐—ฎ๐˜ ๐—œ ๐˜„๐—ฎ๐—ป๐˜, ๐—บ๐˜† ๐—ฎ๐—ฐ๐˜๐—ถ๐—ผ๐—ป๐˜€ ๐˜„๐—ถ๐—น๐—น ๐—ฎ๐—น๐—ถ๐—ด๐—ป ๐—ฎ๐—ฐ๐—ฐ๐—ผ๐—ฟ๐—ฑ๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด๐—น๐˜†.

๐ผ ๐‘ค๐‘œ๐‘›โ€™๐‘ก ๐‘ก๐‘Ž๐‘˜๐‘’ ๐‘ก๐‘–๐‘š๐‘’ ๐‘ก๐‘œ ๐‘ค๐‘Ÿ๐‘–๐‘ก๐‘’ ๐‘’๐‘ฃ๐‘’๐‘Ÿ๐‘ฆ ๐‘‘๐‘Ž๐‘ฆ

๐ผ ๐‘ค๐‘œ๐‘›โ€™๐‘ก ๐‘ โ„Ž๐‘Ž๐‘Ÿ๐‘’ ๐‘š๐‘ฆ ๐‘ ๐‘ก๐‘œ๐‘Ÿ๐‘–๐‘’๐‘  ๐‘ค๐‘–๐‘กโ„Ž ๐‘œ๐‘กโ„Ž๐‘’๐‘Ÿ๐‘ 

๐ผ ๐‘ค๐‘œ๐‘›โ€™๐‘ก ๐‘“๐‘œ๐‘๐‘ข๐‘  ๐‘œ๐‘› โ„Ž๐‘œ๐‘ค ๐‘ก๐‘œ ๐‘‘๐‘œ ๐‘–๐‘ก, ๐‘Ÿ๐‘Ž๐‘กโ„Ž๐‘’๐‘Ÿ ๐ผโ€™๐‘™๐‘™ ๐‘“๐‘œ๐‘๐‘ข๐‘  ๐‘œ๐‘› ๐‘คโ„Ž๐‘ฆ ๐‘›๐‘œ๐‘ก ๐‘ก๐‘œ

There are many reading this, maybe thinking, โ€œ๐‘ค๐‘’๐‘™๐‘™, ๐‘’๐‘ฃ๐‘’๐‘› ๐‘–๐‘“ ๐‘ฆ๐‘œ๐‘ข ๐‘๐‘ข๐‘ก ๐‘–๐‘› ๐‘Ž๐‘™๐‘™ ๐‘กโ„Ž๐‘Ž๐‘ก ๐‘’๐‘“๐‘“๐‘œ๐‘Ÿ๐‘ก, ๐‘กโ„Ž๐‘’๐‘Ÿ๐‘’โ€™๐‘  ๐‘›๐‘œ ๐‘”๐‘ข๐‘Ž๐‘Ÿ๐‘Ž๐‘›๐‘ก๐‘’๐‘’ ๐‘กโ„Ž๐‘Ž๐‘ก ๐‘ฆ๐‘œ๐‘ข ๐‘ค๐‘–๐‘™๐‘™ ๐‘ค๐‘Ÿ๐‘–๐‘ก๐‘’ ๐‘Ž ๐‘ ๐‘ข๐‘๐‘๐‘’๐‘ ๐‘ ๐‘“๐‘ข๐‘™ ๐‘๐‘œ๐‘œ๐‘˜.โ€

And you are correct.

Thereโ€™s no guarantee that concentrated effort on something I am passionate about will lead to a successful outcome.

That said, I can guarantee that if I do nothing, I most certainly wonโ€™t ever create that book.

I most certainly will think more about โ€œ๐‘คโ„Ž๐‘Ž๐‘ก ๐‘–๐‘“๐‘ โ€ ๐‘ฃ๐‘  โ€œ๐‘คโ„Ž๐‘Ž๐‘กโ€™๐‘  ๐‘กโ„Ž๐‘’ ๐‘›๐‘’๐‘ฅ๐‘ก ๐‘ ๐‘ก๐‘’๐‘?โ€

For me, the worst part of not pursuing something Iโ€™m passionate about, Iโ€™ll look back and regret not even trying.

In short, if I donโ€™t attempt, if I donโ€™t practice my writing for the sheer enjoyment of it, doubt wins out.

Instead of accepting that doubt (fear) is completely normal, and a part of discovering or attempting something new, I stayed in what I knew, and didnโ€™t expand further. Ultimately, leading to regret of not trying, rather than regret of trying and potentially failing.

For me, when I look back over my life, that would be something I greatly regret, and it is my intention to continue living a life where regrets of inaction are non-existent.

๐‘Šโ„Ž๐‘’๐‘กโ„Ž๐‘’๐‘Ÿ ๐‘–๐‘กโ€™๐‘  ๐‘‘๐‘œ๐‘ข๐‘๐‘ก ๐‘ค๐‘’ ๐‘“๐‘’๐‘’๐‘™ ๐‘Ž๐‘๐‘œ๐‘ข๐‘ก ๐‘ ๐‘ก๐‘’๐‘๐‘๐‘–๐‘›๐‘” ๐‘–๐‘›๐‘ก๐‘œ ๐‘ ๐‘œ๐‘š๐‘’๐‘กโ„Ž๐‘–๐‘›๐‘” ๐‘›๐‘’๐‘ค ๐‘™๐‘–๐‘˜๐‘’ ๐‘Ž ๐‘—๐‘œ๐‘, ๐‘Ÿ๐‘’๐‘™๐‘Ž๐‘ก๐‘–๐‘œ๐‘›๐‘ โ„Ž๐‘–๐‘, ๐‘Ž ๐‘š๐‘œ๐‘ฃ๐‘’ ๐‘Ž๐‘๐‘Ÿ๐‘œ๐‘ ๐‘  ๐‘กโ„Ž๐‘’ ๐‘๐‘œ๐‘ข๐‘›๐‘ก๐‘Ÿ๐‘ฆ, ๐’Š๐’•โ€™๐’” ๐’๐’๐’“๐’Ž๐’‚๐’.

๐‘Šโ„Ž๐‘’๐‘กโ„Ž๐‘’๐‘Ÿ ๐‘–๐‘กโ€™๐‘  ๐‘Ž๐‘›๐‘ฅ๐‘–๐‘œ๐‘ข๐‘ ๐‘›๐‘’๐‘ ๐‘  ๐‘Ž๐‘๐‘œ๐‘ข๐‘ก ๐‘กโ„Ž๐‘’ ๐‘ข๐‘›๐‘˜๐‘›๐‘œ๐‘ค๐‘› ๐‘๐‘’๐‘Ÿ๐‘ก๐‘Ž๐‘–๐‘›๐‘–๐‘›๐‘” ๐‘ก๐‘œ ๐‘ ๐‘ก๐‘Ž๐‘Ÿ๐‘ก๐‘–๐‘›๐‘” ๐‘Ž ๐‘›๐‘’๐‘ค ๐‘๐‘™๐‘–๐‘’๐‘›๐‘ก, ๐‘™๐‘Ž๐‘ข๐‘›๐‘โ„Ž๐‘–๐‘›๐‘” ๐‘Ž ๐‘๐‘Ÿ๐‘œ๐‘‘๐‘ข๐‘๐‘ก, ๐‘œ๐‘Ÿ ๐‘คโ„Ž๐‘Ž๐‘ก โ„Ž๐‘Ž๐‘ฃ๐‘’ ๐‘ฆ๐‘œ๐‘ข, ๐’Š๐’•โ€™๐’” ๐’๐’๐’“๐’Ž๐’‚๐’.

๐‘Šโ„Ž๐‘’๐‘กโ„Ž๐‘’๐‘Ÿ ๐‘–๐‘กโ€™๐‘  ๐‘๐‘œ๐‘›๐‘๐‘’๐‘Ÿ๐‘› ๐‘Ž๐‘๐‘œ๐‘ข๐‘ก ๐‘คโ„Ž๐‘Ž๐‘ก ๐‘ก๐‘œ ๐‘‘๐‘œ ๐‘›๐‘’๐‘ฅ๐‘ก, ๐‘Ž๐‘”๐‘Ž๐‘–๐‘›, ๐’Š๐’•โ€™๐’” ๐’๐’๐’“๐’Ž๐’‚๐’.

Fear and all the ways we label it, are completely normal for human beings.

Itโ€™s not destroying fear that โ€œsaves usโ€, since there are healthy doses of it.

Succumbing to fear is not the answer either, as that is sure to lead to regret.

๐—œ๐˜โ€™๐˜€ ๐—ฎ๐—ฏ๐—ผ๐˜‚๐˜ ๐—ฐ๐—ต๐—ฎ๐—ป๐—ด๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด ๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—ฟ ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ๐—น๐—ฎ๐˜๐—ถ๐—ผ๐—ป๐˜€๐—ต๐—ถ๐—ฝ ๐˜„๐—ถ๐˜๐—ต ๐—ณ๐—ฒ๐—ฎ๐—ฟ.

๐ผ๐‘‘๐‘’๐‘›๐‘ก๐‘–๐‘“๐‘ฆ๐‘–๐‘›๐‘” ๐‘–๐‘ก.

๐‘„๐‘ข๐‘’๐‘ ๐‘ก๐‘–๐‘œ๐‘›๐‘–๐‘›๐‘” ๐‘–๐‘ก.

๐‘ˆ๐‘›๐‘‘๐‘’๐‘Ÿ๐‘ ๐‘ก๐‘Ž๐‘›๐‘‘๐‘–๐‘›๐‘” ๐‘–๐‘ก.

๐‘‡โ„Ž๐‘’๐‘› ๐‘๐‘œ๐‘›๐‘ ๐‘๐‘–๐‘œ๐‘ข๐‘ ๐‘™๐‘ฆ ๐‘โ„Ž๐‘œ๐‘œ๐‘ ๐‘–๐‘›๐‘” ๐‘คโ„Ž๐‘Ž๐‘ก ๐‘ฆ๐‘œ๐‘ข ๐‘ค๐‘Ž๐‘›๐‘ก ๐‘ก๐‘œ ๐‘‘๐‘œ ๐‘›๐‘’๐‘ฅ๐‘ก.

Since at the end of the day, ๐—ผ๐—ป๐—น๐˜† ๐˜„๐—ฒ ๐—ฐ๐—ฎ๐—ป ๐—ฐ๐—ต๐—ผ๐—ผ๐˜€๐—ฒ ๐˜„๐—ต๐—ฎ๐˜ ๐—ถ๐˜€ ๐—ป๐—ฒ๐˜…๐˜.

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Matt Hogan

Coaching Leaders & Executives to Find Purpose, Clarity, and Alignment. | World Traveler | Soul Seeker | I help you through the hard sh*t.